Balance? Ha!
How Rock Star Moms deal with the Demands of Family
FINALLY, some real honesty about the tough decisions women make when considering what and who to put first! This (August 7, 2013 ) article in TIME, “How Rock-Star Moms Deal with the Demands of Family” is a breakthrough for Moms! These rock-star Moms are being real. They may have a team of helpers but they STILL have to choose their priorities, just like we (“normal” Moms) do.
I especially love how honest Gwen Stefani is when she says it is ‘not possible to have it all as a working mother.’ Many may disagree with her, however, I appreciate her truthfulness about this all-too-common conundrum.
I have often said that the Superwoman Phenomenon (the myth that women CAN and SHOULD BE ABLE to do it all ) is hurting women, badly. If we keep up this facade that women should be able to do it all, then more and more women feel that something is wrong with them when they feel like they just can not keep up!
The truth here is that while women can, of course, balance successful careers that they are proud of and passionate about AND a family/fulfilling personal life, the daily challenges can seem insurmountable, at times. This is okay! This is normal. I promise that MANY other women are feeling the exact same way, they just do not always admit it!
I am so excited to see the start of some genuine discussion among working women about how truly difficult it can be to prioritize what and who must come first! I am sure it was not easy for these women to make such decisions like canceling tours, fashion week appearances, or recording studio time, and loosing money, because they just felt pulled to devote that time to their children’s needs.
No one is perfect. No one can strike the ‘perfect’ balance all the time.
Somedays, we swear that we are failing. And as humans, we are going to fail. Sometimes we will fail as a parent, friend, spouse, or daughter, other days we may fail as an employee, mentor, manager, or entrepreneur.
LESSON:
No one is perfect. No woman has it perfectly together 100% of the time. Accept this. Let’s stop comparing ourselves to each other.
Even super successful rock star Mommies, deal with the same challenges we all do- trying to balance it all, harmoniously.
This is part of life. Let’s be real about our challenges and our weaknesses. Let’s forgive ourselves. Let’s stop comparing ourselves. Let’s move on…together!
