As the respected, modern philosopher, Fergie, from Black Eyed Peas, says in their “I Gotta A Feeling” song, “I feel stressed out and I wanna to let it go!” Well join the freakin club Fergie!
Wouldn’t it feel wonderful to ‘let it all go” as Fergie states? All the pressures, expectations and guilt ridden feelings just wash away? Of course it’d be wonderful but it’s time to wake up! Realistically speaking, THAT is NOT going to happen. At least not over night. However, I am thinking of what can we do, TODAY, to help decrease the load we carry on our shoulders. And it has to do with this secret we all seem compelled to carry with us, day in and day out.
What’s the secret? All the little details of what we do that makes us feel guilty! I have been thanked in response to my blog, for talking about issues that are real and that nobody seems willing to confront. And I get it…who wants to admit, “I am a less than perfect specimen of a human being….let alone, less than perfect Mom” ? However, keep this in mind, when you are always comparing yourself to Motherhood perfection, you will always be disappointed. And it’s not because you are not a great Mom! It’s because perfection is a myth. When you carry things in your heart and never let them go, or share them with anyone else, the weight increases, the air constricts around you. It’s time to get over our fear of embarrassment and let the secret out!
Let’s STOP this insanity, one Mom at a time! Or one post at a time! I challenge you to dig deep this week and post one thing (or circa 2008, phone a friend) and admit one embarrassing thing that will decrease the weight on your shoulders. Label it the “Secret Guilt Society” if you’d like. Tag me…I’d love to hear about it!