Guilt Free Mom Tip #1
1. Go Deep – Determine what you are trying to prove, as a Mom.
After 4 months on the same conversation with a good friend of mine, I asked her to go deep. Anne would call me a few times a week to vent that she was tired, anxious and stressed out! She felt these things because her husband ( a wonderful husband and father) was working at a new job and was pouring everything he could into this new position in order to be successful. While, of course, she supported him on this, this situation left her exhausted! While Anne also had a full time job, she also was responsible for childcare pick up/drop off, emergency (sick child) contact (which happened more often than she would have liked), grocery shopping, bill paying, and house cleaning.
Finally, after a few months of talking to her about how stressed her daily life had become I asked her why she hadn’t yet told her husband that she needed HELP (who I KNOW would want to know her true feelings)…and she replied, “I just don’t want him to be disappointed in me that I can’t do it all.”
FINALLY…the ‘aha’ moment! Anne wanted to prove to her husband that she could DO IT ALL!
Some of us had wonderful examples of what a Mom should be…are we trying to prove we can be as good as our Mom? Or trying to prove that we are better than our own Mom, who did not measure up? Are we trying to prove that we are strong and don’t need to ask for help? Many Moms seem determined to prove that we can do it all!
What are you trying to prove?
For some follow up questions, once you have answered the first question, I challenge you to explore why you are trying to prove that and who are you trying to prove it to.
