Open Letter to Parents of College students

A few of my former communication scholars :-)

This time of year, many parents may find themselves missing their college students as the newness of college life begins to fade. Even if your student hasn’t moved away, you might notice you’re interacting with them less and less. After 18 years of daily routines and regular interaction, this change can feel especially poignant. By now, the excitement of move-in, new classes, new friends, and newfound freedom has begun to settle into routine, and the realities of college life can tug at a parent’s heart. It’s natural to miss them, to notice the distance, and to feel the shift in your relationship.

But you know what does NOT change?

College students talk about their families. Currently in my 24th year of teaching Communications Studies in the college classroom, I have found that my students often talk about their loved ones. Every semester, my students start with an introductory speech where they share a few items that they value and that matters greatly to them. Again and again, I hear stories about:

* Admiration for how hard Mom & Dad works
* Funny memories with Mom & Dad
* Their grandparents meaningful sacrifices
* Treasured gifts from aunts/uncles/loved ones
* Inside jokes with siblings
* Family traditions/ vacations
* Familiar sayings that make them smile

Their favorite stories are about you—because, even with this increased separation, they carry you with them.

If the distance feels heavy right now, take heart: you haven’t been left behind. The connection you’ve built travels with your child, supporting and shaping them every step of the way. 💕

With encouragement,
A college faculty member and mom of a college student (who also gets the occasional “Did you want to pay for my Chipotle today?” text 😅)